The questions posted below are not really answers to better your relationship nor it is tip for good relationship. They are question for you to recap on why better relationship come along during old age.
I am disturbed by today’s new trend of older couples falling out of love after their kids have grown and left home. If I could ask you a few questions:
How much is a successful and lasting love relationship worth to you? How much do you hate being in a divorce court with your husband or wife? How much do you hate going to jail for domestic violence? How much do you hate the frustration of being in love with a person who does not reciprocate your love?
I am advocating for more education, because the more marital knowledge you possess, the smarter the decisions you will make. I am urging every man and woman of distinction to get out of the dark, and learn how to build a joyful family. Here are some of the mind-opening questions I usually pause to my seminar attendees to enable them get an insider’s grasp of the causes of marital failure. I stir their imagination before sharing with them the essential decision-making knowledge they need to protect their love relationship for life. See if you can answer the following questions:
1. If the couple truly loved each other so much before they wedded, why would they be cheating on each other, separating or divorcing?
2. If the couple truly loved each other, why would they opt for the toughest decision that hurts the innocent children they brought into this world? Why would they care less today than before they married? Why would they voluntarily place the pain of their mistakes on their innocent children, and make them miss out on the full-time parental love of both parents?
3. If they truly loved each other so much, why would they be unkind, unforgiving, and insensitive to each other, calling each other witch, bitch, or monster, to the extent of calling for a restraining order? If it was true love, why wouldn’t they forgive each other and agree to develop a friendly solution to whatever conflict they had?
4. Was it lust, an obsession, or fashion? If not, then what was it? Is true love temporary or it really lasts forever? What are the facts? Why are more than 50% of the marriages not lasting a lifetime? Did one partner change after their wedding, or s/he had pretended to be who s/he was not before the wedding? Is there a way one can influence a partner to change for better and not for worse? How would this be done?
5. How does one suddenly fall out of love? Is love comparable to a vehicle for easy illustration – that it runs out of gas and requires continuous refuelling and service maintenance to keep it running smoothly? If so, what type of gas does it run on? What are the critical secrets of marital success to keep your love growing stronger? How does one develop these life-shaping habits?
